I think it's been months since I wrote about my grandparents' home which I was hoping to live in when I moved to take this new job.
Well, I don't have the emotional energy to tell the whole tale, but the bottom line is that I will no longer be trying to take that massive project on.
I sat down with my parents today and talked with them as directly as I could, and it was clear that my dad is unwilling/unable to support (financially, conceptually, or emotionally) the kind of restoration/revitalization of that property that is necessary for me to live there happily and healthily. Also, while he did agree that the property needs to be sold, as it has been draining funds from their retirement for over a decade now, my dad is still having trouble letting go of all the stuff that's still in the house. He started going through it (finally) last fall, but has a long way to go. He can't even commit himself to a deadline of any kind - even to say definitely by the end of 2014 - to finish that project and put the place on the market.
It is a huge shame that this hasn't worked out, but at least we could agree that the property is putting too much stress on everyone and we need to move forward and away from it.
